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Tuesday, July 16, 2019

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Caring or Codependency?

What is codependency?

It may be a term you’ve heard thrown around before, but if you are confused as to what it actually means, that may be because the definition of codependency has evolved over time. The term codependency was first coined in the 1970s and referred to a person’s penchant to

An Introduction to ‘Seven Steps to Mentschhood’

The story is told of the late Dr. Judah Folkman, who several years ago discovered promising anti-cancer therapies. Asked what motivated him to become a research physician, he explained that starting at the age of 7 he accompanied his father, a rabbi in Columbus, Ohio, on hospital visits to see patients. It was those visits that

How Big and Small Mitzvot Guide Us on a Path to Teshuva

This week’s parsha, known as Tzav, begins as follows: “And the Lord spoke to Moshe, saying, ‘Tzav! Command Aaron and his sons.’”

Immediately, the usual formula is disrupted. Usually when God speaks to Moshe, He says, “Say to Aaron,” or “Say to the people,” not “Command

Parenting and Learning to Grandparent in 2019

As I flew through the air reading parenting advice from articles in a recent issue of The Jewish Link of New Jersey, my thoughts were consumed with my next trip across the country with my husband. Our son and “daughter-by-marriage” are preparing for the birth of their first child, our first grandchild, making the Link’s pieces so

Why Are Ultra-Orthodox Jews Panicking Over the Shidduch Crisis?

We hear a lot about the shidduch crisis and who is and is not responsible. Are the so-called marriage mentors, dating mentors and, yes, even some rabbis part of the solution or part of the problem? I’m not sure, but I believe they certainly do not contribute to an easier and more natural dating process.

The Challenge of Raising a Mentsch

There is a story told of four elderly women sitting on a hotel patio:

Woman #1: “Oy”

#2: “Oy Vey!”

#3: “Oy vey iz mir!”

#4: “I thought we had agreed not to talk about the

The Comparison Trap

“Comparison is the death of joy”

 - Mark Twain 

“I don’t know how her house is so clean when we both work full time. My house is constantly messy.”

“How did he manage

The Dental Insurance That Actually Works

The word on the street is that many believe dental insurance is a waste of money and time. People have this conception that dental insurance is not worth it because it pays out very little and most dentist don’t accept it. But this is a huge misconception! We get calls from our existing dental clients about how its forces them to

Ki Tisa: A Guide for Teshuva

Note: We thank Rabbi Igael Gurin-Malous for this month’s article.

Who among us has not sinned? Who among us has not done something that truly requires forgiveness and repentance? Very few, if any…

“How do we move forward from our shame and guilt and

‘She Threw His Purse Into the River:’ Honoring a Parent With Dementia

The imperatives to honor and revere parents are truly weighty positive commandments. They are demanding even when ageing parents have clear minds and are essentially healthy. These precepts are even more challenging if a parent suffers a physical disability or dementia. It is not for naught that the third century amora, Rabbi

Parents Tell Their Story

Our thanks to Joyce and Marty Litchman for sharing their story with us.  We’re sure this will resonate with some of you out there.

I am the parent of a recovering drug addict. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. It began innocently. When my son, Ben, was 8 years old, he was diagnosed with

Teaneck Preteen Packs in the Mitzvot

When 12-year-old Sydney Jerome joined her cousin’s family in Israel for a bar mitzvah this past summer, she didn’t know it would inspire her own bat mitzvah project. But after visiting and volunteering at Pantry Packers in Jerusalem, packing food to be distributed to the needy around Israel, Sydney was inspired to something on